I was reading a couple of articles online and found something interesting. It's about unconditional love and why is it difficult for us to do. What is it anyway? As far as I know, unconditional love is something you give to someone without expecting anything in return. As a parent, I think it's possible maybe because of the genetic bond they have for the child. I'll love my daughter no matter what flaws she does in her life. But in the adult world where relationships enter, it is a process. Some people may think that unconditional love never exist or it can only be seen in the movies or books etc. Based on what I've read, it is a "birthright given to us from the very beginning". As we grow, there are a lot of things that we learn and from these things, the unconditional love we have since birth is being replaced by the "thoughts of the world".
What I like about the article is the idea that it is possible for us to love unconditionally. And we have to begin with ourselves. As how Whitney Houston sang it, "Learning to love yourself, is the greatest gift of all." (I love that song). It is true. And if you have bitterness, anger and the likes within you, then achieving unconditional love would be impossible.
How can you start "loving yourself"? It's not giving yourself a hug or a pat on the back. It's more of focusing on who you really are. I've never focused on knowing who I really am. And because of that, I've had dependency problems. I find it hard to decide on something unless I ask for a friend's opinion.
Ok so aside from the getting-to-know-yourself thing, one should try and speak out loud "all the things" that you think you deserve. It is believed that when your subconscious mind hears it, then it'll start to believe it. That is the drive that you need in order for you to do it.
One of the hardest thing that one must have to do is the recalling of the past event and the likes that hurt them. Recalling everything. Feeling everything. Then release and most of all, forgive. Forgiving someone truly (leaving no hatred in your heart), I think is big leap in achieving unconditional love.
We should stop looking through a "looking glass" as it only shows what we are conditioned to believe in. Instead, look forward with a clearer view and expect things that you can provide yourself before expecting if from someone else.
